Week 18 Now

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Forgetting yesterday neither will I think of tomorrow. Why should I throw now after maybe? Can tomorrow’s sand flow through the glass before today’s? Will the sun rise twice this morning? Can I perform tomorrow’s deeds while standing in today’s path? Can I place tomorrow’s gold in today’s purse? Can tomorrow’s child be born today? Can tomorrow’s death cast its shadow backward and darken today’s joy? Should I concern myself over events, which I may never witness? Should I torment myself with problems that may never come to pass? No! Tomorrow lies buried with yesterday, and I will think of it no more. 

Og Mandino     The Greatest Salesman in the World

As I read the words above I was shocked into an awareness.  I suddenly saw things in a new light.  Now, maybe it’s because I had had an emotional day and my mind was working overtime or maybe it’s just because my mind was WORKING!

THINKING!

Things that you have heard before, things that you’ve always known can suddenly and without warning take on a new meaning.  Your mind finds a whole new way of looking at things.  Usually, it’s because, believe it or not, you are experiencing a whole new level of clarity.  You may not realize it but you are tapping into that Universal Mind that Haanel speaks of in the Master Keys.  It’s quite amazing.

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying:

Yesterday’s the past.  Tomorrow is the future, but today is a gift. That’s why they call it the present.

I know I heard it for years.  Let’s be honest, perhaps I heard it for decades.

YUP, I’m that OLD!

But it never really resonated with me until I read it in the form above.  It all made sense.  I mean it really made sense on the very deepest of levels.  I’ve constantly, in the past, worried about what happened yesterday.  I had overanalyzed how I interacted with people.  I thought about what I had said…almost fretted over it.  I worried about what others thought about what I may have done or said yesterday.  I mean I worried to the point of ridiculousness.  Most likely, most people never even thought twice.  I know I don’t dwell on what others say to me for too long.    I’ve got my own life to live.  So, why did I give so much time to worrying about others reactions past?

The answer, coincidently, probably lies in the past.  I’d been raised to not rock the boat.  I avoided confrontation and anticipated others reactions to keep myself safe.  This has carried itself into my adult life.  I’ve made a habit out of putting others first.  I’ve made a habit out of not doing things that I need, want or value out of fear of others reactions that are close to me.

Truth be told.  I haven’t been living.  I’ve been existing.  I’ve been enduring.  I’ve been tolerating.  And they say you get out of life what you tolerate.  Well, I’m done tolerating!  I’m done existing.  I’m done enduring.  I’ve nothing to prove to anyone else by doing so.  I’ve only hurt myself by denying the real me.

I’m still discovering myself.  But by learning more things about what I don’t want I am uncovering the real me and what I really want.

A few more chunks of concrete gone.  A good amount to go.  But the process has begun.  I have the Master Key course and Mark J and Davene to thank for it.    Thank you!

I’m trying not to cry but the tears are flowing because it is emotional.  To find out just a bit more of who you are and realize that hey, WOW, I am pretty special.  I am worthy!  I do matter!  It hits you deep.  It hits you hard!  But it’s a sweet feeling.

I’m blessed to have lived another day.  I’m blessed to witness another sunrise, another giggle from my children, the beauty in the sky and the landscape, the wind on my face, the wonder in the ocean, the colors of the sunset and the awesomeness of the stars at night.

This life is wonderful!  This life is precious!  This life is a Gift!

Today is the greatest gift of all.

“Yesterday is buried forever and I will think of it no more”                                                                                “This day is all I have and these hours are now my eternity.”

Og Mandino     The Greatest Salesman in the World

 

I believe in the wonder of NOW!

Experience it for yourself!

 

 

Week 17A Begin

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Still on this journey…

It’s been fun, hard, scary, obnoxious, awesome, time consuming, fulfilling, confusing, enlightening and I could go on and on.  The gamut of emotions is part of the experience.

Yet, at week 17A this is just the beginning.  We begin the true Hero’s Journey beginning now.  Again, I’m not sure what to expect.  Just when we get comfortable and start to think we got this…

BAM

Monkey Wrench!

It’s great though,  you don’t grow when you are comfortable.  And although this isn’t always comfortable it is an awesome experience.

I see signs everywhere now.  Things take on a new or double meaning.

I decided this week I wasn’t going to use a measuring tape anymore.  No more thermometers, no more comparing myself to others.  I’m just going to concentrate. on me.  Finding me, improving me, uncovering me…I’m in here somewhere.  The real me is here.  Bits of sunshine are making their way through the facade.

We’ve used this week to do a little review and revisiting of past lessons.  I’ve enjoyed having the time to review.  Having made progress since the original readings of past lessons I’m able to gleam just a bit more from the previous lessons.

The Hero’s Journey I am embarking on should be quite interesting.  I can’t wait to get real, dig deep and find out what’s under everything.  Who am I?  What am I doing?  What is my purpose?

Simple words.

Yet, amazingly, most people go through life never giving any of this any thought.  I’ve wondered my whole life.  Sought to understand.  Sought to figure things out.  Why do I do  the things I do?  What makes me think?  What makes me tick?

Do you wonder what makes you tick?  Do you ever contemplate just what it is you are doing here?  I would think you would if you found this blog.  You can’t be part of the masses out there stuck in a rut and endlessly repeating a “GroundHog Day” life without evaluation and improvement.  If you ever saw that movie you know it’s about getting it right.  About analyzing and improving.  Most people in the world just go about their day.  They are so caught up in the day to day activities of life that they never take time to think and to grow as a person.  Sure they learn new things but mostly just practical things…not often do they gain insight or even perspective.  Most people form opinions early and never venture far from the path chosen as a young person.

I was never one of those people.  Sure I’ve gotten caught up in life and “let it happen to me.”  But I’ve also always known and searched and sought out more.  I’ve taken great time to think about life.  Time to think about me, my actions, my thoughts.  But I’ve never actually taken the time to learn about what really makes me tick.  What are my deepest desires?  What do I want out of life…and not just things.

I love being a part of this Master Key Experience.  It’s truly an enlightening experience.  Sharing it with all of you was difficult at first but I find as the weeks go on I enjoy sharing. I get to share within our MasterMind Alliance also.  Sharing my successes.  Celebrating others’ successes.  Knowing that we all have our own process and that we all struggle at times but we keep on the positive and growing path is encouraging.

Having a bad day?  I get to go in and learn from others.  Other people have experienced exactly the same thing.  I can relate, I can get past the little things.  I have a much bigger picture in mind.

Amazingly, I went to one of those little paint party things this week.  You know the type that you as a novice painter actually go to and then come back with your own “masterpiece.”    It was scary…we as a society have been so conditioned not to make mistakes.  It was hard to take a blank canvas and begin to make something with it.  As I went along though I realized that paint is pretty forgiving….you can’t erase but you can fix little slips along the way.  Slowly the painting gets better and it begins to resemble the example in the front of the room .

I realized that the most important step in the process was to BEGIN.

And you know what?  That’s the most important step in any process…BEGIN!

Week 17 Good Vibrations

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We’ve all heard it said…

What you think about comes about!

What we think about grows.  What we forget atrophies.  The Law of Growth.

You are what you think.

The world without is a reflection of your world within.

“Whether you think you can or you can’t you are right.”  Henry Ford

The list goes on.

This week Haanel talks about,

 

“The vibrations of mental forces are the finest and

consequently the most powerful in existence.”  

Master Keys 17-2

These vibrations are the “pulses” that you put out from your being.  When you think positively and good thoughts like “pulses” are attracted to you.  When you think negatively and poor thoughts like “pulses” are also attracted to you.  If you want to attract good things you have to think about good things.  You must focus on what you want not on what you lack.  Think about where you want to be not where you are.

But thinking in and of itself is not enough.  Thinking isn’t what most people understand it to be.  Thinking is focus, concentrated effort.  It’s not fleeting, its’s not scattered.  It’s not haphazard and it’s not by accident.   Thinking is first done consciously.   When you are trying to understand something new or when you first begin to “think” you must do so in a purposeful manner.

Have you ever been talking to someone who is “off in another world?”  They don’t hear you or loud noises or sirens around them. Typically that is a person who is concentrating their thought on something else, whatever that may be.  It can be annoying if you thought you were having a conversation with that person.  But put yourself in the other person’s shoes.  Imagine having the focus and the discipline to tune out all else and to “think.”  Imagine what you could accomplish.

I’ve been able to think that deeply and I do think that deeply on many occasions.   As a matter of fact I do some of my best thinking in the car on long solo trips.  I discover some of my best revelations and deepest understandings of myself when I am driving.  Thank goodness my subconscious knows how to drive.

I’ve been working on concentrating my thinking this week on the things that I desire.  I’ve been trying to remember not to focus on the lack.  When life seems to be beating you up this can be hard but it comes back to the Law of Substitution.  When you think about something negative, “turn from it and think about something else instead.” This also comes back to the Law of Practice.  Most of life is about practice and the rest of it is about work.  Don’t envy those who look like they have it made.  They’ve just done the work and practiced already.  You can do the same.  Practice, practice, practice.  Whether it’s a physical or a mental exercise it comes down to practice.  And it must be good practice.  If you practice poorly you will perform poorly.  At first you may only be able to do something for 5 seconds but with practice and good form you can increase on that with each concerted effort.  “ease and perfection are gained by repetition.”  Master Key 17-13

Eventually thinking good thoughts will be subconscious and when this happens your whole life will change.  Nothing can derail you.  There will still be negative people that you will encounter but you won’t be brought down by them because you won’t be on that level. Your mind will be operating at a different frequency and will not be sucked into the negative vibe.  Your mind will recognize it as a mismatch and you may feel pity for the person or even empathy but you will not be brought down to that level.  That is if you’ve done the work.  If you’ve practiced and practiced properly.  This also something that you must continue to do.  An unworked muscle atrophies.  An unworked brain turns to mush, figuratively.

You can’t concentrate and think properly for a day or a week or a month and expect things to change for the better and stay that way.  You must do this constantly and consistently.  It’s like building muscle tone.  It takes about 3 weeks for you to see a change.  It takes about 8 weeks for others to see the change.  Stop training the muscle and in a few weeks it goes back to it’s original shape.  Your brain will do the same.  You must feed it good stuff.  You must consciously do this.  For best results this has to get into the synapses of the brain so that you learn to feed on good and not on negative.  As human beings we can’t help but notice negative.

Last week I was in a conversation with a friend and an acquaintance.  The conversation started out great and before I was aware of it the conversation started to take a downward turn.  It was on the verge of spiraling out of control into negative nougat.  I was vaguely aware that this was happening.  Suddenly, my friend got up and walked away leaving me with the acquaintance.  BOOM!  As I watched her go my brain registered the shift in the conversation and I gently excused myself.    I was getting sucked in because although, I have been working on this for months now, my brain has not quite put all of this together so that it is automatic.  My conscious is still necessary to recognize somethings that have not been wired all the way through to the subconscious yet.

So give it time.  But make the time.  Be faithful.  Be consistent.  Be focused.  Put out Good Vibrations.

And before long….

You’ll be the true you…the you that’s buried under all that cement that society has heaped upon you.

 

Week 16 Your Will

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“Visualization must, of course, be directed by the will; we are to visualize exactly what we want”  Hannel 16-35

Will!   What do you will?  What do you desire?  Deep down!  What do you really want? this isn’t about what you hope for.  This isn’t about what you wish for!  It has to be more than that.  You have to consciously think so much, so often, so vividly that you are willing your deepest desires into being.

This means you must develop the right “mental attitude which will bring about the result desired”  Haanel 16-37

In the Master Key Experience we are constantly creating the conditions within so that we can meet them in the world without.  You’ve all heard, “What you think about comes about!”  It’s so very true.

This week I had a really tough week.  Dream Stealers Galore.  It was UNBELIEVABLE I tell you!  I let it get to me.  They almost took my dream.  I cried. I cried some more and then I thought….

Heck!   I’ll just cry myself a river and swim right out of this.   I needed to pull myself out of the downward slope I was on.  I needed to will myself out of it.  I started by repeating “I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.”   By the time I got to the word happy I realized I am happy.  Some tried to derail me and I almost let it happen.

Did you know that “you can be what you will to be?”   As a Master Key student we repeat this at least 20 times a day.  I’ve tried it any number of ways.  Stressing one word over others.  Stressing each word.  It’s amazing how many meanings this one sentence can have.  But the key for me is “will”.  I can will what I want my life to be.  I can will my emotional state.  I can will myself to do what will bring me to my deepest desires.

You’ve heard where there’s a will there’s a way.  It’s so very true.

What do you will?  Are you even aware of what you will?  Do you purposely will?  Or do you float through life taking things as they apparently “happen” to you?

Through the Master Key I am learning to exercise my power.  Learning to control my body, mind and soul.  I always knew on some level that I could but I never knew to what extent that was true.  I didn’t know how much of what I will that I actually was manifesting in my life.

I didn’t know that…

Anything I desire and hold in my mind, focus on and think of  could manifest itself into my conscious world.

I knew I could work hard for what I want but I didn’t know that by working towards and mentally focusing on , willing and manifesting what I want I could actually bring into being.

If you are thinking about all the bad stuff in the world and about how hard things are and how expensive things are then that is going to manifest itself in your life.  People wonder “Why me?  Why do bad things always happen to me?”

Well it could be because you are always thinking about what bad things could happen to you.  Maybe you dwell on the things others do to you or what doesn’t go right in your life.  We are all guilty of it at some point.  But if you want to manifest good things in your life you have to WILL them into being.

I continue to work on myself everyday.  I continue to get a little bit better every day.  We have been looking for Kindness this week and have been tasked with trying to find, witness or participate in 2 acts of kindness daily.  If you focus on the right things you start to see the right things.  It’s almost as if you will kindness into your life with this exercise.

Try it!  Look for kindness this week and write down at least 2 examples of it daily.  Review them before you go to bed.  Put something nice into that mind before you go to bed.  You never know, the next day could be just that much better.  Keep on it and eventually you may not even recognize your life.

It all starts with what you WILL

 

 

Week 15 Sever Stability

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I think this is just about the half way mark.  Who would’ve thought the time would fly so fast?  It really has.  I had no idea what I was getting myself into…which is probably best.  I might have taken time to fret if I had known what was entailed and may have doubted my ability to do the work.  Without the knowledge of what the program entailed I was able to jump right in and ramp up slowly as the program progressed.

I am thoroughly enjoying the process.  Peeling off the layers, like one might peel an onion, of decades old thinking.  It’s nice to be able to rip down the old and build up the new, with the knowledge of how to do things right.  The knowledge!  It’s not always enough to have the knowledge.  That’s a big part of this program, this experience.  You have to apply the knowledge.  And I am.  I apply everyday.  It’s part of the day. Part of my everyday experience now.  It’s not all automatic but it’s becoming more so each and every day.

I am really enjoying the looking and linking that we are doing for shapes and their meaning to us.  This week we started the Franklin Makeover and this week I am focusing on Well Organized.  I’m noticing when I am well organized.  When I see well organized things.  I’m observing, noticing, celebrating things well organized.  I’ve organized the things well that I need to accomplish for the day.  I’ve organized a good dinner.  I’ve organized the laundry.  I’ve organized my workday.  I’ve had my pluses on this one.  I’m going to continue for the week and pick a new one next week.

Look!  I’m already organizing well for next week! LOL!

The other night I fell asleep before my last read of The Greatest Salesman and my DMP.  Well, my subconscious knew something wasn’t right because it promptly woke me up at midnight and all I could think about was getting in the last reads for the day… so I Did!

So what’s with this week’s title?  Well it’s about the subconscious.  It is so busy right now doing things to build up the real me.  So let me tell you a quick, short story.

I was driving my car which has 250,000 miles on it.  It has this little message center and for months now it has been flashing the words SERVICE STABILITY!  I read it every time I start the car up because of course it hasn’t been serviced yet.  Today when I looked down my brain saw SEVER STABILITY.  Not quite what was really there.  But it was what my brain showed me.

I had to laugh and then

BOOM

it hit me!  EXACTLY!  SEVER STABILITY!

It makes perfect sense.  If you want to grow…and I do! If you want to experience the MASTER KEY in the true way… You have to SEVER  your ties from STABILITY!  Sever the ties you had to everything you think that you know about yourself.  It’s funny how our brain plays tricks on us.  But in many cases if you’ll just pay attention the brain is just sending you a message.  Mine sure was.

It’s just like back in week 10 when I thought I saw “Get the Hair OFF your Dreams!”    (see week 10 post here).  My mind is telling me things.  Sending me messages.  Telling me things it knows but I am not consciously aware of.  So to make me aware it “reads” things wrongs to get me to think about what it is trying to tell me.  What I should know.  What I should do.  What I should remember.

I have SEVERed STABILITY since starting this course.  But I know I still have a few strands hanging and I need to make the final cuts so that I can make the most growth.  I’m doing it.  Those last strands are not very thick but they have a bit of hold.  They are weakening as the weeks roll by as I do the work and experience more of the MASTERKEY!  It’s quite amazing.  Quite freeing to work through this course.

Can’t wait to see where I am in 14 more weeks!

WOW!

 

Week 14 Discipline

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If you enter into the discipline necessary to bring about a radical change in your life, you must do so deliberately, after giving the matter careful thought and full consideration, and then you must allow nothing to interfere with your decision.

Masterkey 14-27

 

Now that up there is the key to all change!  The KEY! THE K-E-Y!  It must be a deliberate choice and once decided there can be nothing that you can allow to interfere with your decision.  This really struck home with me.  My blinders haven’t been on tightly.  I ‘ve allowed my focus to drift.  Hoping that some things would change for the better on their own.

Ha!  That’s a joke!  Things that change on their own seldom change for the better.  I know that.  It’s been pretty self-evident.  I know that I need to go out there and affect change.  I also know that I need to spend more time deliberately charting my course in my daily sits!

I’ve felt a bit cheated lately.  I haven’t been able to focus as deeply in my sits as I would like.  I haven’t been disciplined. Time, at this time of year, is at a premium.  I’ve been able to do what needs to be done in quantity but quality has suffered.  Each day as the winter school vacation comes closer to a close I feel myself getting more into the focus of things.  The focus of my things.  The focus of how I want my life to be.

With the lack of focus in the sit, though, amazingly enough, I feel  like a layer of my cement as been chipped away.  I’ve spent a lot of time in mindless activities in which I have been able to go through the motions of the task at hand but was able to let my mind be somewhere else and work on myself.  During this time my mind has been busy.  I come across a few more small epiphanies and discovered a few things that I had always thought were important to me and have since realized were never important to me.  I’ve been living parts of my life in fear of things I did not want to happen and in the process haven’t been “living” my life so much.  I’ve found out a few things that I realize had nothing to do with me or my wants or needs and instead had to do with pleasing others.  I’ve come to realize I don’t so much want to be a people pleaser anymore.  I want to please myself…but not in a selfish way.  In a healthy way.  I can’t continue to worry so much about others’ opinions.  There’s that old saying:

“Those that care don’t matter and those that matter don’t care.”

and then there’s another:

“Other peoples opinions of you can’t pay your bills.”  

or another favorite:

At age 20, we worry about what others think of us. At age 40, we don’t care what they think of us. At age 60, we discover they haven’t been thinking of us at all.

I’m finally getting past my 20s on this.  I honestly, used to say I can’t wait until I’m 80 then I can say whatever I want.  My grandmother used to say whatever she felt like saying. Anywhere, anytime.   And you know what it all goes back to the first quote up there:

“Those that care don’t matter and those that matter don’t care.”

How freeing is that?!

I’m learning to worry about my own well-being because if all is right with me…then all is right with the world.  Cause and Effect!  Thoughts are things!  What we think about comes about.  The Law of Growth from last week.  What we think about grows.  What we forget atrophies.

Growth….G-r-o-w-t-h!  It’s all about GROWTH!  And Discipline!

I’m growing into the me I was meant to be.  The me that was created before it was covered up by so much cement!  Can’t wait to continue to discover what’s underneath as I chip away at more of the cement!  With the discipline and focus to stick with the program and the details and the quality of the exercises I know it’s going to continue to be amazing.

Stick around…

Week 13 Expecting the Maximum…

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A lot of people want change…they want life to be different.  They want more good things.  Less bad things.  The truth of the matter is not many people WANT to change themselves.  There’s the old saying…change yourself and the whole world changes.

Working through the Master Key Experience takes work.  It takes discipline.  Good thing is it’s all accumulative.  Bad thing is it’s all accumulative.  Don’t do the work and pretty soon you are far behind.  Do the work and you are one step closer every day to what you want.

I’ve been doing the work.  But, in all honesty, I could do more.  I could focus more.  I could put more into my services.  More into working towards my Pivotal Personal Needs.  We all have more in us.  When push comes to shove we all have more in us.  Go to the mirror…and ask yourself:  “Am I doing all I can to be all that I want to be?”  What’s the answer?

We can’t go on expecting the maximum and doing the minimum.  Life doesn’t work that way.  The Universe doesn’t work that way.  We all know it!

We are working this week on finding three things that we are grateful for daily and writing them down.  We are to read through these and another group of cards that we have been adding to that highlights things we have done right in our life.  We are reading a stack of these daily to help remind us that no matter how things look right now we have done some things right in our life.  This helps to remind me to look for the good things, to quickly forget the little things that go wrong everyday because I need to concentrate on the good things so I can put them on my cards.

                                    What we focus on grows.  

                                    What we forget atrophies.

The Law of Growth.  The Simple Truth right there.  Focus on negative, depressing things and you turn negative and depressed.  Focus on positive, good and uplifting things and see the good in the world and your world is most likely happy.  That doesn’t mean that things that sadden you don’t happen it just means you don’t focus on them.  It’s as simple as changing your view.  It’s amazing how quickly you can change your world.

About 15 years ago I found an old movie with Hayley Mills.  You know her she’s the girl that played in the original Parent Trap from 1961.  In this movie she plays a girl that despite all the sad things that happened to her chooses to focus on the good things in life.  All of the people in town at first think she’s a bit odd.  But, of course, by the end the townsfolk realize that she was the only one that had been looking at things through the proper perspective.  So, if you haven’t seen it yet you should.  Find yourself a copy of Pollyanna.  It’s a great family movie!

Working on building a business has its ups and downs.  There are activities you that you dread.  You know you should do them.  But you think about how much pain you associate with the activity and you talk yourself out of them.  I’m guilty of it.  I admit it.  It’s easy to rationalize that other things need to be done, that now isn’t a good time, etc.  But the truth of the matter is the only thing stopping you, or me in this case, from getting it done is the pain that is associated with the task.

This week we were given a new tool to work through issues like this.  We were taught how to use NARC.  Neurological Associative Reactive Conditioning. Using NARC teaches our mind how to attach pleasure to what previously we associated with pain.  We have been using our DMP that we built from the beginning, and continue to refine, daily.  We read it 3 times a day with feeling and emotion.  Now we are to do the same and then dump the DMP in the trash!

YIKES!  WHAT DID YOU SAY?!

YUP!  Drop your DMP and all your goals in the trash.

Why?!  Because if you aren’t going to do what you need to do then your DMP means nothing.  You can’t do the minimum and expect the maximum!

So now what?  I just threw my goals in the trash!  That means my DMP is trash?!  Well we don’t want that do we.  That DMP is important to us.  It represents all that we want, all we deserve, all we are willing to work for.  So to show it’s important to you and that you really want everything you stated on your DMP do the thing that you know you should to advance your life or your business.  For some of us it might mean making 10 calls.   When you complete the “scary” task then you have earned your DMP back.   You get a prize! Go Get IT!  Pick it up out of the trash.  Hug it, read it again.  Feel it!  You just got back something you really want.  It’s not dead.  It hasn’t been taken from you.  But you almost let it go!

So what was more painful?  Doing the task or throwing away your goals and dreams?    If you really want success.  You’ll associate pleasure with the once “scary” task because it means you are one step closer to your definite major purpose.  By making those calls in my case, I get to dig my DMP out of the trash.  I get to claim my future all over again.

I expect the maximum out of life…so I refuse to do the minimum!

See you next week.